DO you have a boss that doesn't communicate with you - doesn't provide the information you need to do your job, doesn't listen and appears unable to help progress your career.
YES? Well, what can you do?
First, ask for what you need, and also think of alternative ways to proceed if the boss doesn't come through.Not all people with manager titles are good at managing people. Organisations often promote people with strong technical skills but do not teach them how to lead.This leaves the worker having to take the lead, to push for the support they need.And, that may, or may not, be successful.If this applies to your workplace, then, to start, reflect on the situation, focus on your breath to help you let go of disappointment so that you can look objectively at the factors at play.What is your vision for your relationship with your manager? How often would you interact and what would those interactions include? People have a variety of levels of need. They are not right or wrong, but be sure that you are clear on what you'd like. Think in terms of day-to-day direction as well as higher-level career development aspects. If you're having trouble imagining this, think back on experiences with past managers, good or bad, to define your ideal.Now, consider your current manager, and detail your concerns. What behaviours cause you to feel unheard? For example, do you hear keyboard clicks if you're on the phone or does he fiddle with his smartphone during meetings? Or is it subtler than that?If you want the situation to improve, you'll need to discuss this with your manager. Preparation will be key, and you probably don't want to spring it on him without warning. For example, consider setting up a meeting to touch base on your new working relationship.In planning for the meeting, develop one or two key messages that you want to convey. If there are positive aspects, be ready to mention those. If there are specific behaviours that you find challenging, highlight those, using "I" messages: "When I hear you typing when we talk, I feel disappointed because it seems like you're not really paying attention to our conversation."There may also be needs you can bring up; for example, "I'd like to set up some structured career-development discussion time" so that he knows it's important to you.These conversations may not yield the results you hope for, so develop a Plan B. It's always a good idea to have mentors, so look around your organisation or broader network to identify people who could provide extra support.If, after all your efforts, the relationship is unsustainable, consider other, more extreme, options. You could talk to your boss' boss for ideas on making it work. Or you could look for a new job, recognising that you may not actually end up with a better outcome.